Are You The Negative Energy?

By Kimberly Hudson-Grey

My husband, Dr. Sinclair N. Grey III wrote in one of his devotions: Get Away From Negative Energy which says, “Let me drop this in your spirit – the wrong people in your life will drain you and deplete you. Here’s another way of saying it – the wrong people around you will prevent you from blowing up from the floor up. Whether it’s family, friends, associates, and/or coworkers, you need to know negative energy will pull you down. Don’t tolerate it. Don’t accept it. And, by all means, get away from it. The Bible says, “The truly happy person doesn’t follow wicked advice, doesn’t stand on the road of sinners, and doesn’t sit with the disrespectful.”

My question to you is, are you the negative energy? Are you the wrong person to be around? I ask because we love those messages that cast the light on others. Automatically we can think of a person or two that we believe fits the bill. Yeah, we judge. We love to say, “Amen!” “That’s right Preacher, I can’t stand to be around negative and obnoxious people!” But rarely do we think about our own involvement with negativity. Being overbearing, loud, aggressive, and speaking off the cuff is off-putting. The Bible says “The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives.” 

Being involved in drama continually day after day isn’t cute. Not only does it drain and deplete people around you, it diminishes your own possibilities of being your best. Your God-given calling may be placed on hold because of your negative energy.  If you can’t monetize your nonsense like on a reality show, then you’re most likely just wreaking havoc on someone’s life, mainly yours. I’m not endorsing doing a reality show because I don’t find them helpful in any way. My point is that your life and time should be precious to you. Hindering your chances of manifesting your purpose because of your own foolishness is your own doing. 

Perhaps a new way of thinking is advisable. You can repeat “I am who I am, take me or leave me” and “I’m a work in progress, be patient with me.”  But if you’re the one who is knowingly unpleasant but believe you’re justified,  then you should also believe that people may eliminate you. You can’t have it both ways.

This isn’t a feel-good message. Sometimes we hate to look at ourselves with constructive criticism. But, in order to blow up from the floor up, there’s some self-examination and soul-searching that should take place. Do you subscribe to nonsense? What are you feeding your mind? What goes in comes out believe it or not. Limit the garbage you put in your system. Eliminate or limit involvement with negative people. It’s easy for negativity to rub off.  If you don’t know your purpose in life then take some time to explore and discover what you’re passionate about. Hopefully, your purpose in life isn’t to cause strife and confusion. Find positive influences and sources of inspiration. Don’t be the negativity.

Kimberly Hudson-Grey is an entrepreneur and international traveler. Follow her on Twitter @kimthevisionary. You can reach her by email at,