Pastor asks: Is it healthy for Christians to marry outside their denomination?

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Reported by Michal Ortner

On June 29, gospel singer Dr. Ricky Dillard posed a question to his Facebook page about marrying outside of ones denomination. In light of the Scripture about being “unequally yoked,” should Christians stick to their own denominations when seeking out a spouse?

“The scriptures say that Christians should not be ‘unequally yoked with unbelievers,’ but some denominations use that to keep Apostolics/Baptists/AME/COGICS/SDAs from marrying one another. Is that what this means? Should Christians marry others in different denominations? What say ye? ‪#‎RealTalkWithRicky‬,” the post read.

“It shouldn’t matter what denomination you are. The term unequally yoked means that a person denounces or doesn’t believe in God at all. It has nothing to do with being COGIC, Baptist, AME, or anything like that,” one Facebook user commented.

Another commenter suggested, “Unequally yoked can also mean that even if they are both believers, if they do not agree with a lot of things and are not compatible, they are technically unequally yoked. If you are in a Christian relationship, but you don’t see it going anywhere because you guys disagree on a lot of things then honestly you are unequally yoked. God wants his children to marry someone that can be equally yoked with them in all aspects of life.”

According to Jack Wellman, a Kansas pastor and author, couples should consider every aspect of marriage—including what will cause friction and division. Because different denominations can be a source of division, it is important to weigh the pros and cons.

Wellman encourages believers to ask the question, “Can the two walk together?” This particular principal stems from the Scripture Amos 3:3.

“Circumstances and love might have brought them together but is this enough to keep them together? Remember that God intends marriage to be for life…until death…so this will be the most important lifetime decision the couple will make next to their choice of placing their faith in Jesus Christ,” Wellman writes.

“The two must work together, side by side, and be in agreement with one another or it just won’t work at all. The farmer will be frustrated and the oxen will be unruly and the harvest will be affected,” he concludes.


What do you think? Are different denominations considered “unequal” when it comes to marriage?



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